We believe parenting to be a spiritual journey.
We believe that our kids have much to teach us, including about love and innocence, while we teach them about the physical world.
We believe that possibly our biggest contribution to future generations is to not pass our own trauma on to our children and instead to raise our children with as much presence and as consciously as possible. Therefore healing our own trauma both individually and in relationship with our family and children is very important for us.
We believe in the role of community and observe benefits from our kids having close ties with other adults that love them. One benefit is that our children grow up in a wider field of love. Another benefit is that they get imprints from loving adults that don’t have the same blind spots their parents do - we believe that such diversity is actually creating the healthiest environment for our children.
We also value our weekly parenting meetings: the insight of other loved community members into our parenting style is revealing our own blind spots and often stimulating behavior change on our end that improves the dynamic with our child. And we love that we don't have to all make the same mistakes - instead we learn from each other and share resources in that way.
We are choosing to raise kids in a tight-knit community with an explicit agreement that when we entrust our kids into the care of another adult, we choose to trust their parenting and their decision making and their care. So we're open to having them imprint our children without giving them a manual and a lot of constraints and instead base their relationship to our children in a field of mutual trust we are fostering.
Lastly, we believe that parenting involves making mistakes, and the biggest gift we can give our children is not to be free of mistakes, but to teach them by example on how to own your mistake, ask for a do-over, learn and grow while deepening in connection and intimacy.